There is enough room for everyone to cuddle on this bed and in moments of sibling harmony it is a good place to play. The kids go in and out of this closeness minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day, depending on the context of the moment. Has everyone had sleep, eaten well, are they feeling honored and respected, the list goes on: what age, personality, milestones, interests? With this daunting list of variables it is easy to see that it is impossible to get it (sibling rapport) right everytime, and even thinking that it will be right most of the time might be work left for the parents with wills of steel. But often settling for good enough and a little guidance when needed from us it works and at time works very well.
::M shhhing the big kids to sleep::